Separation could be a double-edged sword.
It wasn’t that long when my neighbors were the best of friends. They are a couple that I’ve blogged about before. I remember getting my shih tzu because of them – they seem to have enjoyed life more than anyone I’ve seen. They did a lot of things together – biking, shopping, traveling – they also laughed a lot together. They have been together for eight years, and married for two. Very recently, they have separated.
I often wonder what happens to relationships after a while. I see people in their 70s or 80s and they still manage to hold hands while walking down the street. They eat ice cream together, and take walks together. These days, you are lucky if you survive a year together and still be amicable to each other. Mine was no different, the only difference was that it lasted for four years.
Foreclosure is a word everyone would not want to be associated with. Because of their joint accounts and everything tied together, I don’t even know who did what to whom but everything is under dispute. Since the girl quit her job, there is no way she could afford to live in the house they both lived in. She didn’t do her research before she took her steps even though there are information available anywhere on the internet. Not being properly informed, she was forced to file for bankruptcy, and now the house is in danger of foreclosure. I must tell you that they got this house in the most terrible condition when they moved here three years ago. They gutted it out and renovated the whole house including upgrades to the bathroom, expansion to the loft, adding a second full bath and a full kitchen upgrade as well. If the house goes into foreclosure, all that work would go in vain.. If she had been well-informed about the foreclosure process, she would not be in the position that she’s in today. There are ways you can deal with the lender, the state and other laws that could protect you from foreclosure if you know what you are dealing with.
The latest news is that the guy actually won the court battle and is now in the process of buying her out and owning the property upright. It’s good and it’s bad. That would mean that she now has to leave the home they both shared together and move somewhere else where she can afford to live. I just really don’t understand how people can live together for so long and still find out in the end that they do not know each other? I should be asking myself that as well because for four years, I now know that I still didn’t know my ex-boyfriend. To this day, I don’t know what to make of him. Was he really this cruel? Was he really non-emotional to let go of a relationship just like that? I am still hoping not. He is a great guy and I know that he’s not that cold. At least, in my mind – I know he’s not.
