Do not chastise Malu Fernandez, she was definitely joking.
I was blog hopping the other night and found the article “From Boracay to Greece” by Malu Fernandez that infuritated Filipino bloggers worldwide, most especially the OFW’s whom she insulted on her write-up. I was affected by it as well and although I am not an OFW, I have very close friends who are. To say the least, I was a bit annoyed. Hate would be too big to use because she did, and I’m sure of it - mean it as a joke.
Why am I certain of that? I’m an 80s kid and you all certainly remember Donya Buding. A comedienne by art, her character to be a rich, famous, and elite Donya was hilarious and very entertaining. She used the poor to create her persona. She would make fun of the have-nots and I found it very funny!! Actually, a lot of people did!! I used to wait for her ’skit’ on ‘Penthouse Live’ every Sunday evening and laugh my arse off! To tell you the truth, if I was reading Malu’s article under a different pretense, I would probably be on the floor hyperventilating in laughter.
What is the difference between the two? Nothing. They both stated their statements to be funny. The only thing that separates them is that Donya Buding is/was a comedienne - - Malu Fernandez, on the other hand is not although she may have thought that she is. The damage has been done and Malu Fernandez like Ruffa Gutierrez, or O.J. Simpson will move on and go on with their lives. I also understand that she has apologized and tendered her resignation (still awaiting confirmation).
I am gay, and gay jokes can be harsh. If you’ve hung out with gay guys and hear the way we insult (in jest) other people - you will probably send us all packing as well! We say these things to be funny and we laugh about it when it is funny. And don’t get me wrong because I understand what happened fully. It’s like Malu made a joke about a gay person dying of AIDS, and to me - that is not funny. But it was a joke and I may be annoyed at first but I am willing to let it go. Just don’t do it again and we’ll be fine. I am not being self-righteous here.. just stating what I would do if I’m offended by something.
So come on guys - - let it go. She made a mistake, she apologized. This is not a witch hunt. Let’s welcome her back and let this be for her, a GREAT lesson learned.
An excellent movie that I recommend for this is “PRIEST“. The movie climaxed at the end wherein through the silence of both victims (the priest and the girl), they understood each other’s pain. Very moving - - - rent it this weekend!
Cheers everyone!!
$ djah - oo na nga, agree naman ako senyo eh.. yun nga lang - palipasin na nating diba? magkakababayan naman tayo… alam ninyo naman. sana naman ay tama din ako dahil kung pretentious lang siya.. avah.. tsutsugihin ko rin siya!
$ adrian - nalowka ako sa posting mo!!! ang galing ng sumagot na yan!! i loved how she attacked her.. hay naku, kailangang ma-ifeature ko yang si Ingrid Holm na yan. Saan ko ba siya mahahanap?
$ mel - oo nga, offensive tita mel.. pero ika nga, porgib en porget na lang diba? humingi na naman ng tawad eh.. tsaka jobless na siya ngayon. siguro naman sapat na yon bilang parusa.
$ seselya - ay naku mare - tama ka riyan. mas may importante pa tayong gagawin sa buhay natin. so, go shopping na lang tayo!!!
$ tal - korekek tal - - why waste our precious time diva? the important thing is that she learned her lesson (hopefully), and if she was indeed serious - agreed - - she deserved what she got.. my belief lang is that she was trying to be funny - - pero mali ang tone and delivery.
$ marbs - - hi marbs. thanks for visiting. don’t get me wrong, i understand how offensive it was. it was a poor joke said in the wrong context at the wrong place and the wrong time. carry na lang dibanetch?
$ gelalaaaahh - - grabe ka naman mare, para akong nakikipag balagtasan sa kowment mo - - pero in fairness, aliw siya. thanks for visiting my blog.. ay naku ateng, patawarin na natin siya.. we don’t need the wrinkles dahil diyan… aksep ko ang ibig mong sabihin - - na-offend din ako.. pero ika nga.. bitawan na ang lubid.. para makalaya ka.. o divanetch! marunong din ako nyan gurl!
He-he!!
Hi Chuva
Sensya ka na I got carried away.
I actually just read the articles today and
someone found Ingrid’s post and posted it to our forum.
Of course I had to add my 2 cents in.
Gusto ba nating ma-stereo typed ng ibang lahi.
Di ba sabi ng mga magulang natin galangin natin sila sa harap ng tao para galangin din sila ng ibang tao.
I guess it goes the same for our race.
kung gusto nating irespeto ng ibang nation
the we should respect one another first.
like I said before, Whatever!
Hmmm, I suspect you’d also condone people calling African-Americans the n-word if they find it funny as well. So this is just a bunch of laughs for you… “Call me whatever you like but when you are trapped in economy class that is filled to the brim with migrant workers the smell gets a little funky after nine hours of flying.”
I think my comment is a bit late but what the heck! It is easy to forgive than to forget! I think this Malu Fernandez think highly of herself obviously! A lot of us have been to several countries and places but never brag about it nor make any derogatory comment about the Filipinos we met regardless of their status in the community/society. Malu F is a classless inconsiderate person! May she never find a job as a writer or anywhere. For me she deserved all the nasty comments about her. I hope she will her lesson well or else there are a lot of us here abroad who will go after her fat ass!
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