In life, we have several milestones that give us the opportunity to shine indeed. We can either be prepared for it or not.
This milestone could be anything. You may have graduated from college or recently got married. You may have been married for ten years, or 25 years and ready to celebrate it. These are milestones that are well worth recognizing. Some we worked hard for, and some just came because it is the natural course of life. Each milestone is an opportunity. Some choose to say, “I will not be fat when I turn 50!”, or “Once I get married, I will make sure that I focus on my partner and nothing else.” But, are we setting ourselves up for failure each time that we do this? Maybe, or maybe not.
I remember back in the day when I was younger and not able to afford anything yet. I watched home & garden shows, dreaming of buying my home one day. I always knew that I wanted to own a home of my own. Every passing moment, my task is to contribute toward that goal. I saved what I can for a down payment. I worked very hard to get promotions that would allow me to earn more and save more. Everything I did was focused on that. Then, one day, the moment arrived. I have saved enough and was making enough to afford a house. It was not a mansion by any means, but it was a home. I remember my first night at the house when the key was turned over to me. I sat in the middle of the living room and thought, everything is possible. That was a proud moment.
Now that I am a bit older, I yearn for different things than what I yearned for when I was growing up. Now, I want to be happy. I want my life to have to mean something. The “things” that I thought would make me happy when I was younger are no longer the same things that I believe would make me happy now. A simple day at the beach with Kenzo, watching the sun rise would make me happy now. Back then, a night of hanging out at the clubs and getting myself wasted beyond belief would equate to happiness. Things do change.
That is why in relationships, I feel the same way. Friendships, family, acquaintances – what is most important? A milestone helps us navigate through the roller coaster of a ride called life. We learned a lot of things along the way that pointed us to be where we are today. Some things we have denied (self-denial), and now own up to and some we have accepted as it was.
When I speak to elders, I listen to what they have to say. That is because I don’t want to miss anything. They help me with their words of wisdom, in finding the right path without having to have to get lost along the way. I realized that they told stories to help young ones understand what life offers us and to make the right choices and avoid the mistakes that they went through. All we have to do is listen.
Now that I am older and hopefully wiser, I have to choose what I allow to come into my life. If I want happiness, I will only allow anything that brings me happiness. If I want purity, I need only to let pure things to enter my mind. If I want success, I will let success envelope me. The curtain is up. Which to me, means that life is too short. I have to refuse to allow people to criticize and affect me. I must tell myself that I am worth far more than what I believe I am worth. It is a daily thing that I need to do. Otherwise, I will forget, and I will be bound to take the roads that I have taken before. It is a new dawn. Life has to be better, happier, and freer.
So, to anyone out there who is thinking that they have all the time in the world, it’s time to stop and think. Nothing lasts forever. Kaya kung naniniwala kayo sa true love, maaring totoo pa. Pero forever? Walang forever. LOL!!
Okay, I am off to watch The Shift – Dr. Wayne Dyer (who passed away the other day – may he rest in peace). I only wanted to share my thoughts with you and what I am going through at this time. Until next time.